Why do men cheat?. A question that raises arguments. Whenever you hear the term”cheating in a relationship ” the first gender that strikes your head is the male gender( no offence guys). When you see a couple fighting over cheating, whether you admit to it or not the first thing that comes to your head is “who did he cheat with”?, that’s because men are like the “Usain bolt” when it comes to cheating, they know how to break multiple records.
When you’re dating a good looking guy, one of the things people ask is “are you sure you’re not in a competition with other girls?” Well, that’s why many girls would rather not fall for good looking guys because they don’t want to compete. If you’re wondering why men cheat or are tempted to cheat, then you’d probably need to read this article till the end.
10 Reasons why men cheat
- They like to think they’re in control
- He doesn’t love you anymore and wants out
- Men are silent attention seekers
- They aren’t contented
- They are not in love with you
- He is an egomaniac
- They are different
1. They like to think they’re in control
It’s not a new thing that most men like to be in control of the relationship. When men are in control of the relationship it makes them feel like nothing can be done when they cheat, and if you really look at it not much can be done.
When men cheat on their partners they feel the least their partner would do is cry until they get tired. But if a woman were to cheat on a man, he could get really angry, smash things, he could literally do anything he likes. That’s because most men like to think they’re very much in control of the relationship.
It doesn’t mean that the women have little or no say in the relationship, but that’s the way it had always been, with men claiming the head of the relationship and women claiming nothing. Although, things are beginning to change now because most women of late will not engage in a relationship where they have little or no say.
2. He doesn’t love you anymore and wants out
Some men find cheating as the best way to jump out of a relationship, some of them can go to the extent of cheating openly as a means of frustrating their partners to leave the relationship.
There are different ways to see things when men cheat, it’s either they beg for a second chance (which is the most popular), or they never apologize, and if they don’t apologise it probably means they expected it all along and they want to leave the relationship
I don’t think it’s only men that use this tactic, many women do it too because the anger of finding out that your partner is cheating on you triggers a breakup.
Sometimes we do different things that kind of frustrate our partners into doing silly things. When couples are in a relationship where quarrelling is the new best thing, they can’t go through a single day without finding something to fight about, relationships like this can be very exhausting.
Most men give it a try to seek things out by trying to tackle the problems in the relationship, but after trying multiple times and things don’t go their way, then they deviate and look for someone else
4. Men are silent attention seekers
Men aren’t always the type to seek attention but when they do, then it’s pretty serious. It might be attention to different things (and I hope you’re not thinking something else).
Men might not always voice it out when they need attention (unlike women) because all men have at least an atom of pride in them. Sometimes you have to be empathic in a relationship to really understand your partner and relate to their feelings.
This is pretty normal, when people don’t get attention from the right, they look towards the left, and men are no different. They kind of expect you to know they need the attention instead of voicing out
5. They aren’t contented
Oh yes!!, Some men are never satisfied with one woman. They’d want to have a partner and still have someone else to cheat with, so technically they’d be too timing both.
It’s rare for a woman to have two partners (really rare) because it’s exhausting and hard to deal with, but men can never be tired of playing the “two spouse game”.
Ever wondered why the word “polygamy” is more popular than “polyandry”?. well now you know, some guys aren’t just satisfied with having just one partner.
6. They are not in love with you
People often jump into relationships with people they don’t love, although sometimes they eventually love each other but that’s not always the case.
Men sometimes go into relationships with women they probably don’t love and this kind of relationship is short lived because it’s hard to be committed to someone you don’t love. And yeah!! that’s what happens when you jump into a relationship because of looks and other packages (men are no strangers to this).
After months or years of dating, he’ll find out that he was never in love, and then he would embark on a secret cheating journey to find love.
When a man is being cheated on by his partner, he is most likely going to do two things, either he leaves the relationship (as most men would), or he plays the cheating game too (which men are good at). A relationship where both spouses are cheating on each other would take a miracle to save.
One funny thing a man can do when he knows his partner is cheating secretly, he’ll do his openly (and that’s a solid payback), so technically that isn’t called cheating, it’s called two-timing (openly).
A relationship is like running a marathon race and it takes a lot of training to master. If you aren’t experienced, you could lose (that’s if you have enough energy to see the finish line).
Dating an immature guy is like wearing a blindfold towards a cliff. A guy that has never been in a relationship before lacks relationship experience and can easily be tempted to cheat.
An immature man is most likely to have commitment issues because of a lack of experience. It takes a lot to stay with one partner if it’s you’re new to relationships and not get tempted to cheat. I wouldn’t say this set of men are bad in any way, I’d say they’re immature and lack experience (period!!).
9. He is an egomaniac
Have you seen a guy that likes to think he is on top of the world?, well I have seen a ton. Egomaniacs are really hard to deal with in a relationship, they’ll do things and expect to be stopped by no one.
An Egomaniac would be very hard (almost impossible) to keep up with, when he talks ten times he expects you to talk once, when he cheats he sees it as part of life and doesn’t feel remorseful at all.
10. They are different
You’re probably wondering why number 10 doesn’t have any specific point, well, all men are different. Although some believe in the saying “all men are the same”, but in truth, people do different things for different reasons.
Men do cheat, but never make the mistake of thinking that women don’t cheat too. When it comes to being in a relationship there are different things that make us vulnerable.